ATO Stina Lindenblatt
Why Be a Statistic?
When LH invited me to write a guest post, I wanted to do something different. My debut book, Tell Me When, is about a college student who had been stalked and kidnapped while in high school. The book deals with the aftermath.
Just prior to the launch of the book (back in January), I had a blog hop to bring awareness to the problem of stalking, which is all too common for high school and college students. People were invited to talk about stalking, and many shared their own horror stories. This included one person who was friends of a friend of someone who was not only stalked, she was buried alive. She died. The stalker is now serving life in a psychiatric prison and will never be released. Her family will never been the same again.
The best way to deal with a stalker is prevention. I was a victim of stalking in university. I learned my lessons the hard way. Here are some tips to avoid becoming a stalking statistic.
- Stalking behavior should never be considered harmless infatuation. It can lead to physical and emotional harm to the victim.
- When using social media sites, limit what info you give out. Be vague. Don’t mention when you’re away on vacation.
- Always be aware of your surroundings. When running or walking, avoid going alone, especially on routes that aren’t busy.
- Keep your cell phone charged at all times in case you have to call 9-1-1.
- Stalking can include small gifts or notes left for the victim, vandalism, repeated harassment, watching the victim’s every move, going through the victim’s garbage and studying the victim’s social media sites to learn more about the individual.
- If you give a stalker a phony phone number as an easy form of rejection, he might misinterpret the real meaning and think you’re interested.
- Just say, “No.” If you come up with excuses, the stalker might interpret that as a yes.
- If you’re going to meet someone from a chat room, do it in a public place. Better yet, don’t do it at all.
- Don’t be predictable. Predictability makes you easy prey.
- When not using your computer, turn it off or make sure the camera lens is covered. Stalkers have been known to watch unsuspecting victims this way.
- If you feel like you’re being stalked, keep record of all interactions and situations so that you can give them to the police. If a stalker sends you anything, save it as evidence. Keep a record of when it was sent or found, where it was found, and protect it in a Ziploc bag like on CSI.
- Once you suspect you’re a victim of stalking, contact the police. Don’t wait for the problem to go away. Often it won’t! If a stalker threatens you, take that threat seriously.
- If you are in an abusive relationship, leave and go to a women’s emergency shelter. Hiding out with friends or family could put you and them in further danger if the abuser knows where to find you.
- If you’re being stalked, make sure you tell your family so they can be alert to the individual and possible danger to you and them.
- If you become a victim of stalking, be your own advocate. Don’t let anyone treat the situation as unimportant. And that includes the police. You have the right to safety. Exercise that right.
I think this was a great topic to post on because I personally have a very good friend who has gone through this. It’s not an easy thing to deal with, so this is a lot of very good, helpful information. I love that Stina did all this research to get all the facts! That is what helps make a great book!
Amber Scott should be enjoying life as a college freshman. She should be pursuing her dream of becoming a veterinarian. She should be working hard to make sense of her precalculus math class.
She shouldn’t be waking up her college roommate with screaming nightmares. She shouldn’t be flashing back, reliving the three weeks of hell she barely survived last year. And she definitely shouldn’t be spending time with sexy player Marcus Reid.
But engineering student Marcus is the only one keeping Amber from failing her math course, so she grudgingly lets him into her life. She never expects the king of hookups will share his painful past. Or that she’ll tell him her secrets in return, opening up and trusting him in a way she thought she’d never be able to again.
When their fragile future together is threatened by a stalker Amber thought was locked away for good, Marcus is determined to protect her—and Amber is determined to protect Marcus…even if that means pushing him away.
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Tell Me When is a standalone novel, but there is sequel. Let Me Know comes out September 1st.
Born in England, Stina loves to travel, and has lived in England, the US, Canada, and Finland. She spent a semester in graduate school living in central Finland, and a summer during her undergrad degree working in Helsinki. She has a Master’s of Science degree in exercise physiologyand has worked with elite athletes. In her free time, Stina is a photographer, mother of three adorable kids, and devoted wife. She currently lives in Calgary, Canada. You can find Stina here: Website/blog Facebook Twitter Pinterest
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